I hope you're having a fabulous summer!!! Every year I swear I'm going to blog more, but then summer hits and whoosh -- I'm caught up in the swirling, frenetic pace that is wedding season! But summer is always a blast and this year is no different.
One thing I've encountered a bit more this year is brides bringing friends to boudoir shoots (without prior notice) or to review sessions (without mentioning they were planning to do so).
I take responsibility for this, but I have a firm policy in the Long Island Boudoir Photography Studio. Friends are not allowed to watch boudoir shoots. Why? There are several compelling reasons:
- When I did allow friends to watch shoots, clients would tell me after the shoot that it was SOOOO uncomfortable having another pair of eyes just watching them try to master difficult boudoir poses or genuine expressions. Sometimes they'd ask me if I would mind kicking Friend/Sister/Mother out. Eek. That's a tough position to be in when I didn't invite them in the first place. :P And so going forward I decided I'd protect my clients even if they weren't aware that's what I was doing.
- I realized we have a short period of time in which to establish a strong photographer-client bond--which is critical if we are going to create powerful images that hit the bullseye in terms of what my client is looking for. And, that's not going to happen if the client is constantly looking to Friend for validation and feedback that she's doing things right...not to mention, how would Friend know if she's doing things right unless Friend is a boudoir photographer herself...and if she is a boudoir photographer, then it's simply bad juju not to mention that ahead of time to me--the chosen boudoir photographer for this particular shoot.
- True story: one time, I had Friend shouting over me as she suggested awful poses my client should try. Can we say awwwwkkward?
- Most people think I don't want Friend watching because they assume I'm worried she will take video or snapshots on her cell phone. While that's certainly not the main reason for my policy, it is problematic and I'd rather avoid that situation altogether because 1) I don't like being on camera -- especially when my backside is on full display :P; 2) the images Friend captures aren't in any way going to convey what I'm capturing and as a studio owner I have to work hard to manage the who/what/where/how and why of my studio.
As for friends coming in for boudoir shoot reviews, this is ALWAYS my experience: Friend will more likely than not be opinionated but not necessarily helpful in selecting images. Sometimes my client will know how hard she's worked to create a particular image, but Friend does not since she wasn't at the shoot, and Friend may insist she go with another image that neither the client nor I feel is as strong or interesting. Again, unless Friend is let's say 's ad exec and used to reviewing photographs it might be better to trust your photographer--me.
That's it. Just wanted to share the why of this policy I have in my boudoir photography studio. We are working hard here on lots of fun new offerings for our loyal friends and friends-to-be. Announcements to come but this summer is going to end with a big bang and a whole new world is opening up for Long Island Boudoir Photography and the community we're building around female empowerment!
Have a great summer!
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Susan Eckert owns and operates Long Island’s Leading Boudoir Photography Studio and is author of BODY & SOUL, A MEANINGFUL APPROACH TO BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHY WHICH IS NOW AVAILABLE ON AMAZON.COM and AS A BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHY RESOURCE ON BARNES & NOBLE